Author Terri Lomax

I always viewed forgiveness as a very limited and narrow process. In theory, I'd give each person I met a "forgiveness allotment" which, depending on the nature of the relationship, would abide by the three strikes law. If someone betrayed me more than 3 times, they got cut off; plain and simple. Continue reading...

After losing both of my parents in 2008 months apart, I walked away from 18 yrs of lesbianism, because I promised my mom and God I would do so. It has been almost 5 years since my last relationship with a female. Continue reading…

Almost 5 years ago I found myself crying on my bathroom floor at my mom’s house. I was hopeless. I was helpless. I was on the verge of giving up. I felt the weight of the world on my shoulders and I just couldn’t take it anymore. Continue reading...

The average person doesn't spend even 30 minutes a month in total silence and tranquility. Develop the skill of sitting quietly, enjoying the powerful silence for at least 10 minutes a day. Simply think about what is important to you in your life. Reflect on your mission. Continue reading...

The biggest obstacle I had to face was balancing my personal life with being in nursing school, trying to get straight A's, and trying to be at school on time, when the night before, I was at the studio until 2am and still had to finish homework. Continue reading…

The quality of your life is the quality of your communication. This means the way you communicate with others and more importantly the way you communicate with yourself. What you focus on is what you get. If you look for the positive this is what you get. Continue reading...

One obstacle that I have overcome was being scared to embrace the Gift that God Gave me. I was very afraid because I didn't want my life to change, and I was afraid people wouldn't respond to me well and that I would be looked at as crazy for stepping outside the box. Continue reading...

Set aside one hour every morning for personal development matters. Meditate, visualize your day, read inspirational texts to set the tone of your day, listen to motivational tapes or read great literature. Starting the day off well is a powerful strategy for self-renewal and personal effectiveness. Continue reading...

I can't say that I have experienced any obstacles any more drastic than many other Black American Girls. Believe me, there are many that have much worse experiences. I was always taught that obstacles are just challenges or stepping stones that make us stronger. Continue reading…

On the back of a business card or small index card, write out a statement such as: “I like and accept myself just the way I am” “I am the master of my destiny” “I am somebody, I love myself, I believe in myself.” Carry the card with you. Continue reading...