The new year is literally right around the corner. During this time of the year people typically do some of the following: they prepare for the new year and start mapping out their goals, they purge with an intense winter cleaning, they reflect on the previous year(s) and celebrate their growth, but some sit back and look at their life with disappointment.

I think we’ve all been there at some point. You log onto Facebook (or the other social network you frequent) and scroll down your timeline and see the people you grew up with doing “big things.” “Everyone’s” getting married, having babies, earning multiple degrees, traveling and they all look so happy… compared to your life. Even their selfies are flawless.

I’ve been there and it sucks. It took me a long time to stop habitually comparing myself to others. Some days I see wildly successful bloggers making a living doing what they love and I think, “Damn, when will it be my turn?” But then I have to remind myself that those successful bloggers worked hard to get to where they are. I don’t know what they had to sacrifice, or who they had to lose in order to reach their goals. Staying in my lane and focusing on my unique goals has been a tremendous help for me along my journey.

Hating and comparing isn’t going to do anything but piss me off and get me off my game. Whenever I’m tempted to compare and lose confidence in myself I congratulate those who are doing big things and use that energy to grind harder… for myself.

Whenever you feel like comparing yourself to others take a look at the quotes below and hopefully you’ll realize that you are exactly where you are supposed to be and that you have everything you need within you to get to where you want to be!

1. “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel” — Steve Furtick

2. “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.” — Jon Acuff

3. “Comparing yourself to others is an act of violence against your authentic self.” — Iyanla Vanzant

4. Look in the mirror. That’s your only competition.

5. You may not end up where you thought you’d be, but you always end up where you’re meant to be.

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