An Open Letter from Prison: Mama Lomax (my mom) Talks Abuse, Guilt & Forgiveness

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If you’re a frequent reader of the blog then you’re pretty familiar with the relationship between me and my mom. Blogging has been a therapeutic outlet for me on my journey to forgiveness. It’s also been a healthy method of coping with the physical and verbal abuse that I experienced at the hands of my mother. I’ve written numerous blog posts about my mom’s frequent jail time and the effects that her actions had on my growth as a woman. Continue reading…

Mocha Girl of the Week: Jarryn Mercer

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Jarryn is a Mocha Girl on a Mission because she received a Masters of Science in Education from Old Dominion University and a Bachelor of Science in Liberal Studies from Southern Connecticut State University. She is currently working on her second Masters degree in Public Administration. Jarryn aspires to start her own non-profit organization in the next couple of years Continue reading…

Mocha Girl of the Week: Kay Holmes

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The last 10 years have probably been my most difficult. In these few short years I’ve lost a job I loved, divorced, faced foreclosure on my home, lost my car, filed a bankruptcy and was diagnosed with a chronic muscle disorder. All of these things took both an emotional and physical toll on me. I was depressed, angry, irritable and just not myself. It just seemed the minute I began to recover from one thing something else would happen. I felt trapped in a life that was turned upside down. I didn’t want to share what I was going through with others because I felt embarrassed…I was the one who always had her stuff together. Continue reading…

Mocha Girl of the Week: Sarah Smith

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I have finally overcame my fear of pursuing a new career path. Since I graduated from Kutztown University in 2008, I have been working retail. Going from job to job seeking to earn more money but I wasn’t happy. Working long hours and physically and emotionally tired. I wanted out. Now, I have decided to quit my job and pursue my career as a photographer. I have been so scared to do this because I feared that I was not good enough. I thought “who would like my work?” Continue reading…

Mocha Girl of the Week: Precious Coleman

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I am a Mocha Girl on a Mission because after being faced with multiple forms of adversity, I always knew that success solely depended on my innate ability to “take charge” even when things seemed financially impossible. There’s a generation of young women who need examples of strength right within their locality. I grind for them! Being raised by a single mother who was an employee of the Department of Education. My mother was one of 3500 teachers who lost their jobs due to the Bias testing practices of The NYS office of teaching and NYC DOE. As a means to combat the test and unfair licensing practices the teachers formed a Group Called Progressive Action Caucus. Together they filed a Lawsuit to sue the City of NY and hold them accountable for their discriminatory exam. The case is still in court after 18 years of financial hardships, countless setbacks…. They finally won! Continue reading…

How Bad Do You Want It? (or, the Story Behind My Name Change)

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When I was 7, my mom asked me if I wanted to change my name! I know right? Uhh, what 7 year old wouldn’t want to change their name!? The reason was because her and my biological father had divorced years ago and he didn’t want me to forget about him. My mom had remarried and I was being raised by her and her new husband. My dad’s name is Eric. Can you guess what he wanted to rename me? Yup, Ericka. Ericka with a C and a K. I became Ericka almost immediately, but, my mom, being the strong-willed, traditional woman, that she is, wanted all of her children to have the same last name. So not only did my first name change, but my last name too. Continue Reading…