HomeMotivationWhen’s the Last Time You Celebrated You? No Really… When? Terri June 19, 2015 4 Comments Quote of the Week “When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from the inside.” – Joel Osteen When’s the Last Time You Celebrated You? No Really… When? If you’re anything like me, you spend more time celebrating the success of others over your own. You probably work really hard, set a bunch of goals but when you overcome obstacles, when you achieve your goals, you barely give yourself time to wallow in your success. You might smile and give yourself a halfhearted pat on the back as your mind races to conjure up a plan for the next big thing. Growing up I was always very conscious about the need for balance on the “cocky and confident spectrum.” The funny thing is, I was neither confident nor cocky. Battling with low self-esteem and a negative self-image often caused me to trivialize my achievements for fear of being mistaken as cocky or arrogant, plus, any kind of attention was brutally uncomfortable for me. My greatest fear was to hear “You think you all that” or “Who do you think you are?” The older I become… the less I care about how I’m perceived by others. On my journey to overcoming low self-esteem I’ve realized that everything starts on the inside. Love. Compassion. Healing. Celebration. And the list goes on and on. Celebrate You My wedding is 32 days away! Eek! Yes I’m excited, but stress is trying to creep in every chance it gets. I was having a rough day this week but when I received my wedding programs from Ann’s Bridal Bargains I couldn’t help but smile. I designed the programs online and it took quite a bit of patience, creativity and thoughtfulness to create them. Seeing the programs reminded me of all the hard work I’ve been putting in over the past 9 months. I’ve been balancing family relationships, a domestic partnership, a full-time job, a rigorous side hustle, a cross country move and a wedding. Wow! It hit me. Ummm when is the last time you celebrated you Terri? Crickets. Needless to say, I took myself to lunch, ordered a tasty cocktail and sat with myself reminiscing on the sacrifices I’ve made, the work I’ve put in and how proud I am of me. There’s nothing wrong with looking in the mirror and telling yourself how awesome you are. You probably don’t give yourself enough credit for the things you do. If you need a little help, I gotchu 🙂 Are you a student balancing relationships, your social life and your studies? *Insert Celebration* Are you a single parent mother caring for your little ones and doing the best you can? *Insert Celebration* Are you a mother in general balancing your marriage, caring for your children while trying to stay true to your purpose and passion? *Insert Celebration* Have you been a guide or resource to another human being? *Insert Celebration* Have you overcome at least one obstacle in life? *Insert Celebration* Spend the next week celebrating you, your accomplishments, the journey that you’ve traveled and the obstacles you’ve overcome… some people have been where you’ve gone and didn’t make it. You better celebrate you and stop playin! You’re awesome! Let’s Chat: What personal accomplishment are you most proud of? Why are you awesome? Terri Lomax It’s definitely a process Jade. The first step is realizing that something needs to change. You deserve celebration 🙂 Sounds like you’re on the right track mama. Terri Lomax You go girl! Please share the link to your book 🙂 Thank you for sharing! Can I Live I am so proud of myself for accomplishing my new years resolution and writing my first book “Can I Live? The Advice Every Black Girl Needs but Doesn’t Know It Yet”. It’s truly been a journey and learning experience. I’m so excited about the opportunity to help other mocha girls. Jade I’m always so conscious of trying to not come off as conceited or overly confident. A lot of attention makes me feel odd and uncomfortable but inwardly I can imagine and see myself being a lot more bold and openly demonstrating it. I feel that I need to relish more in the accomplishments I’ve made and not be so quick to move on on to the next task I “should” be tackling. I can completely empathize with your perspective and your definitely not the only one. I want to continue to congratulate myself and feel proud of the things I’ve done.